With Valentine’s Day being this month, many couples are thinking more about their marriages than they might the rest of the year.
While it’s certainly a good thing people are being intentional this month, I wish it happened more than once a year. Unfortunately, life is busy, and marriage is hard work. If we’re not intentional about making it a priority, it won’t be. Other things will gladly squeeze it out of the way.
One of my New Year’s Resolutions this year was to pray with my husband each night before bed. It’s not a huge thing, but it has made a huge difference in my attitude toward him and in our relationship. It’s also opened my eyes to the importance of making marriage a priority on a daily basis. Just having a monthly date night isn’t enough (though it’s certainly a great thing to do!)
I’ll be the first to admit, it’s hard to invest daily in my marriage. I have two little kids (a kindergartner and a three-year-old). My children are at an age where they still need my attention for just about everything.
At the end of the day, after I’ve spent just about all of my energy meeting their needs, adding another human being to my list of people I need to love can be overwhelming. Some nights (I’m being honest here), I’d much rather turn on the tv, shut off my brain, and be alone than show my husband I appreciate him.
God has been teaching me (I’m clearly a slow learner since I’ve been married 10 years and still don’t have it figured out yet) that even though it’s hard, it’s worth it.
I might not feel like being present every night, but when I choose to do so anyway, the reward of a satisfying marriage is worth the sacrifice.
Each time we choose to invest, we make our marriage that much stronger. Each time we choose our spouse over ourselves, we make Satan that much madder. And each time we choose to make our marriage a priority, we make God that much happier.
Yes, taking time daily to invest in a marriage is hard work. Yes, it’s not always what we might want to do. But it’s always totally worth it.
Here are a few ways to invest in your marriage on a daily basis.
10 Quick, Easy Ways to Invest in Your Marriage:
1. Ask your spouse how his/her day went. Then really listen to the response.
2. Check in at least one time in the middle of the day with your spouse.
3. Pray together at least once a day.
4. Kiss daily.
5. When your spouse gets home from work, stop what you’re doing to welcome him/her.
6. Go to bed at the same time.
7. Talk about more than just the week’s agenda.
8. Spend a minimum of 5 minutes each night talking to one another.
9. Say, “I love you” each and every day.
10. Pray for your spouse.
What else could you do to invest in your marriage on a daily basis?
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