We’ve all had those moments. The ones where you realize you don’t have a clue how to navigate the motherhood waters. When all you want to do is throw in the towel and just wallow in self pity.
We’ve all been there.
Motherhood is hard work. It takes the grace of a swan, the patience of Mother Teresa and the strength of a bull – all at once. It isn’t for the faint of heart. And some days are just down right hard.
Days when the toddler is wailing because you told her she couldn’t eat dirt.
Or when your 11 year-old piddles around on his school work and doesn’t finish until after 5pm and there are tears – from both of you.
What about when another child is mean to yours. They are crushed. And it breaks your heart.
Those are all situations we can usually handle. So, what about when you can’t? How do you go on with motherhood when you feel completely lost and alone?
Spend Time in God’s Word
You probably expected this from a Pastor’s wife. But, if you read my post on Monday, you’ll know I truly struggle in this area. I do not spend enough time in God’s Word. However, when I carve out that time for myself to read the Bible and spend time listening to Him, my days seem to go smoother. It’s not that they don’t have bumps in the road, it’s that my focus is on Him and that makes all the difference. One way I’ve worked to improve in this area is using a Bible Reading Plan. This helps me keep track of where I’m reading and what comes next. It also helps me stay in God’s Word and stay on track.
Take a Time Out
Many moms feel like taking time for themselves is selfish. And I used to agree with them. I felt that if my husband had to take the kids “away for a bit” I had somehow failed as a mother. But I soon realized that this time was just what I needed. Time to refresh and recharge, so that I can give them my very best. The way you take a “time out” looks different for everyone. Now that my kids are older and can keep an eye on the baby for a short period, I often retreat to the bathroom for a few quiet minutes. I lock the door and turn on the vent. The vent drowns out the noise and chaos that is causing me to stress and allows me to regroup. Sometimes I cry. Sometimes I talk out loud to get it out. Sometimes I spend the time in prayer, because I don’t know what to do. After my few minutes of solitude, I emerge refreshed and regrouped so that I can refocus and continue on through the day.
Talk to a Trusted Friend
Whether on the phone, by text or video chat, talking to a trusted friend is a great way to refocus. I have a few close friends that are straight-shooters. They will always listen to me, but aren’t afraid to tell me that I’m being a baby and to suck it up. They are also willing to pray with me and love on me when I need it most. Having those trusted friends to encourage you and push you forward in your motherhood journey are essential. I pray you have one in your life.