When I became a new Mom, I would simply sit and stare at my son. I would hold him for hours on end, not worrying about what I had to get done in the house or whether dinner was ready for that night. I wanted to hold him close every chance I could. Even then I knew that time would be gone too soon. Here I am 8 years later and that boy barely fits in my lap anymore. Oh he still wants me to hold him tight, give hugs and snuggle with him, but he is not the tiny little baby he once was.
I know without a doubt, his love language is Physical Touch. At least that’s his primary love language. As an infant he would constantly find my or my husbands hand and rub our fingers until he fell asleep. Although many times my arm went numb in the car as I reached back to his seat, I really miss those days!! He has always been and continues to be, a physical touch kind of person.
The other three have been a little more difficult to figure out, however. That’s where the book, The 5 Love Languages of Children, comes in. I had read the original 5 Love Languages book many years ago, but not the children’s version.
This book has been so helpful in recognizing that not only are each of my children’s personalities different, they understand, feel and know love in their own way. I guess I just needed someone to smack me in the head with what seems like something so obvious. We have had some set-backs in our homeschooling over the past year or so and this book has really opened my eyes to see things I need to change in the way I show my love to our 4 very different kids.
Mister Bull is definitely 1) Physical Touch, 2) Quality Time and 3) Words of Affirmation – he is the furthest from Gifts or Acts of Service.
Mister Mouse is most definitely Quality Time. I’m not sure how the rest fall into place just yet, since he is only 4 years old.
Miss Priss is predominately Acts of Service and Gifts, which also happen to be mine! So, her and I relate well, yet we butt heads because we are so much alike!!
Punkin, being only 2 years old, is still too young to tell for sure but right now she loves Physical Touch (on her terms) and Quality Time.
Knowing these simple, yet profound details about my children is making a HUGE difference in how I parent them and let them know I love them. This book is definitely worth the read if you have children!! As Mr. Chapman says, “If your language is different from your child’s, you’d better learn to translate – fast. Or you could miss your chance to meet their deepest emotional needs.” I can’t imagine my children growing up not knowing how much I love them.
Be sure to visit all the homeschool cohosts to read about their favorite books that have inspired them in their homeschool journey.
- Blessed Beyond a Doubt – Homeschooling with a Meek & Quiet Spirit
- The Homeschool Live – When You Rise Up: A Covenant Approach to Homeschooling
- Simply Sherryl – Simply Homeschool
- Education Possible – 101 Top Picks for Homeschool Curriculum
- Cheryl L Pitt – Sheperding a Child’s Heart
- Pyllis Sather – Raising a Modern-Day Knight – A Fathers Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood
- Frugal Homeschool Family – 7 Tools for Cultivating Your Child’s Potential
- Homeschool Giveaways – Pocketful of Pinecones
- Homeschool Survival – Season’s of a Mother’s Heart
- So You Call Yourself a Homeschooler – The Love Dare For Parents