Looking for something to stir meaningful conversation with your spouse? Or, hoping to find something that might help a rocky marriage? My husband and I have been married for twelve and a half years. The first five of those years were great. Then, around year six (and when we added children to the mix), things got tougher.
Maybe you can relate.
It wasn’t that we didn’t still love each other. We did (and do!). But we stopped being intentional in our marriage.
The busy days of work and raising children, combined with misunderstandings from sleep-deprived individuals, led us to drift apart. During those tougher years, we began doing something that drastically improved our marriage, and I wanted to share it with you today.
We regularly asked each other these two questions.
2 Questions To Improve Your Marriage:
- What am I doing well in our marriage?
- What could I improve on?
The reason these two questions are so powerful is because they force both partners to do two things:
1) share something positive about the other person, and
2) share something they need.
NOTE: I highly recommend asking the questions in this order with the positive question first!
My husband and I try to ask each other these questions at least once a month, and I’ve been surprised at some of the great conversations that have come from them. It sounds simple, asking each other two short questions, but it can make some big improvements in a marriage.
These two questions are a great way to get a conversation started, as well as an opportunity for you to stay connected to each others needs and wants. Sometimes all it takes is just a moment to sit down and reconnect, especially in a busy and hectic schedule. The nice thing about these two questions…they don’t have to go with a fancy date night. You can ask them anywhere!
I want to hear from you: When can you ask your spouse these two questions this week? Share in the comments!
What other questions have you found that help stir meaningful conversation?