When I married my husband 16 years ago, I knew the man standing across from me at the altar was an answer to my prayers. In fact, I couldn’t imagine ever having to work at loving him. Then, of course, we grew older, life got in the way, children came along and we realized that staying madly in love takes work.
So many times we forget that in order for a marriage to thrive we have to continue to fall in love with our spouse over and over again. We forget that in order for our love to stay alive, we actually have to work at and for it daily. There are even days when we have to work double time just to keep the fire burning.
5 things I have learned to Keep the Love Alive
- Aside from God, our spouse should always be first. This is something that is easy to forget as life starts piling in around you. Your spouse is the one person that should come before all other people – your children, your parents, your friends and even your church. The moment you said “I do,” you became one. Therefore, you should hold that relationship above all others.
- Never forget to lift your spouse up in prayer. In order to stay in love, we have to lay them at the Master’s feet daily. After all, we never know truly what they are facing throughout the day. Not to mention, one of the greatest ways to fall in love and see someone the way Christ does is to pray for them. Prayer unlocks a whole new kind of love.
- Don’t forget to date each other. Dates are important. They are a time you have devoted just for the two of you. No matter what you may think every couple needs time to connect with each other, without children tugging at you.
- Keep your communication lines open, even when you aren’t happy with each other. In order for any relationship to grow and thrive, there has to be open communication. Often times, it is easy to simply shut down those lines of communication. However, if we constantly shut them down, how will we ever learn and grow together? During these moments we are ultimately adding to our love tanks.
- Always strive to learn more about each other. Life experiences change us. This means that we need to always strive to learn more about each other. Striving to become an expert about our spouse will only cause us to love them more.
The loving feeling doesn’t have to fade after several years of marriage. In fact, it should continue to grow into a stronger and deeper love.
How do you keep the love alive in your marriage?