Have you ever blown it with your kids?
You don’t have to answer that, because you and I both already know the answer. Of course you have. We all have.
As much as we’d like to claim we have never raised our voices or lost our temper with our kids, it’s not reality.
Because we’re human, we’re going to mess up.
I remember one day a few years back when I blew up over noodles.
Noodles, for goodness sake. Who blows up over noodles?
I would feel so much better telling you about this if it was over something much more important than noodles…But it wasn’t.
I lost my temper because, my then four-year-old, wouldn’t eat his noodles for lunch. But first, let me back up a little.
The morning started great. I was intentional all morning long. It was during the winter, and I remember there being snow on the ground. We built a snowman, had a snow ball fight, shoveled the patio, even built an igloo. The morning began beautifully.
But then we came inside, and I guess I stopped being so intentional.
I planned to make snow ice cream for dessert, but the rule in our house is if you don’t eat your lunch, you don’t get dessert. This is where the problem began. He didn’t want to eat his lunch, but I wanted to enjoy snow ice cream with him later, so I pushed the issue.
What I should have done is forgot about the ice cream and let go of my expectations. So what if we didn’t get to eat snow ice cream together?
What I did instead was this: made him eat his noodles, even though he was throwing a fit the whole time. I got upset with him over something that was ridiculous and ended up causing my son, whom I adore, to cry.
Have you ever done something like this? Have you ever gotten upset over something as silly as a noodle?
Right after this whole thing happened, I opened up a book, Lead Your Family Like Jesus, that was sitting on my coffee table. This is the quote I read: “Lord, help me parent with grace rather than anger.”
I don’t know about you, but it seems like God provides exactly what I need to read at exactly the right moment.
“Lord, help me parent with grace rather than anger.”
That is my prayer for today and for tomorrow and for every day.
And on days like that day when I blow it, I’m glad there’s grace for me too.
Let’s talk: Have you ever lost it with your child? What happened?